tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post3790722774709820890..comments2023-10-24T16:22:58.495+02:00Comments on anecdotes of a manic mum - a new chapter: S.O.S...Tamsyn woodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09490967136488880500noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-67764795910030443462012-09-09T23:11:41.146+02:002012-09-09T23:11:41.146+02:00I saw this post through a link on a friend's f...I saw this post through a link on a friend's facebook page. So sorry to hear what you're going through at the moment. Not sure if this will help but has your husband seen an Occupational Therapist? He may have done through his rehabilitation. They should be able to help with housing adaptations and issues related to re-housing (or more suitable housing). You can usually self-refer for an occupational therapy assessment through your local social work department but there may be a long waiting list. I think you said he wasn't living at home at the moment - he may be able to access an occupational therapist at his current accommodation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-86608589326535788222012-09-08T20:18:12.100+02:002012-09-08T20:18:12.100+02:00So sorry to hear about your situation. I haven'...So sorry to hear about your situation. I haven't had a chance to read all the comments so I may be duplicating but here are some ideas:<br /><br />Your local Foodbank will feed you and your family for as long as you need them to (Bicester / Chiltern see: www.trusselltrust.org/foodbank-projects )<br /><br />Whichever Neuro centre cared for your husband during his stroke should be able to plug you into appropriate social and medical care and start the ball rolling for disability entitlements which should include mobility transport/vehicle etc<br /><br />Citizens advice bureau should help with benefits<br /><br />Get plugged into your local church, there are people there who will care for you and Jesus certainly does.<br /><br />All the best.James Haslamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08902371259647832662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-24985306079203251972012-09-08T15:45:29.061+02:002012-09-08T15:45:29.061+02:00I am so annoyed at this that I have emailed your l...I am so annoyed at this that I have emailed your link to 10 Downing Street. THis sitaution is not right in this day and age. The government claim to be family friendly when all the time they are making things harder and harder for people. I am so sorry for your situation and hope that you do get some help from somewhere.Emilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-9586204043760082872012-09-08T10:50:03.679+02:002012-09-08T10:50:03.679+02:00Please contact Partners Foubdation www.partnersfou...Please contact Partners Foubdation www.partnersfoundation.com they are a national specialist supported landlord and should be able to help you sort your home issue. SAF can fund the purchase of the property provided it is commissioned by the local authority. Www.safhousing.co.uk. You will need to get your husbands social worker involved. Keep strong - you will get this situation improved. You are doing a Stirling job Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-68165940786436960662012-09-08T09:44:14.576+02:002012-09-08T09:44:14.576+02:00I am so sad that you and your family are being tre...I am so sad that you and your family are being treated like this, it is outrageous your husband has been told to go for a job interview. I think that the fact that the government has left the onus on you to 'sort it out' is criminal. <br /><br />Are you a full-time carer for your husband? I know you have said you are not sat down all day, but I am just wondering if you are his carer or are you home with your youngest? Trying to work out the best source of financial help.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-84956059000048641742012-09-08T07:29:14.435+02:002012-09-08T07:29:14.435+02:00Hi You mentioned husband was blind, has he been re...Hi You mentioned husband was blind, has he been registered blind? The reason I ask is your local charity re sight loss would support you and even if not reg would still help re assessment and may be able to refer re housing adaptations etc! If not then please do call RNIB and I know they will advise or offer support. Your local charity may asses unless local authority do it but this maybe one way to assist, also getting a community care assessment if not already done so may help, your doctor should be doing a letter re employment and support re benefits!!! I hope this may help in some way blessings to you allAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-26734698553992826652012-09-07T23:03:18.631+02:002012-09-07T23:03:18.631+02:00Makingwavesforalex.co.ukMakingwavesforalex.co.ukluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12822777584503746723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-16911113624162511122012-09-07T23:00:08.074+02:002012-09-07T23:00:08.074+02:00After reading this post, I had to read the rest of...After reading this post, I had to read the rest of ur posts!! You and ur husband are inspirational and I will be praying for healing and also that all your needs are met, and for the best possible options are available to you! Hope you don't mind but as I was reading back posts I came across the link to the fundraising page set up by your friends for Alex and i noticed others on here had asked if u had one so I've included the link! luhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12822777584503746723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-82797924329173647982012-09-07T22:35:40.284+02:002012-09-07T22:35:40.284+02:00I'm afraid I don't have much advice to off...I'm afraid I don't have much advice to offer apart from contact your local children's center and your health visitor for help and support with benifit claims, housing and family support. They know all the local charities who may be able to provide help and support.<br />I had tears in my eyes reading your blog, you sound like an amazing woman who has the strength to guide her family through this. I wish you all the very best. We are not a well off family but I too would like PayPal details as we could afford a little that would maybe give your family a meal or two.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-90514475985601921272012-09-07T18:17:01.305+02:002012-09-07T18:17:01.305+02:00There seem to be some great suggestions out there,...There seem to be some great suggestions out there,but in the meantime I can suggest you also get in touch with the local Salvation Army,they are always on hand for any emergency,some food,some respite for you at a kid's club for the children.Also,please get in touch directly and accept offers of financial help.Ann,Keri's mum.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-65933657527354702012012-09-07T16:38:10.808+02:002012-09-07T16:38:10.808+02:00Echoing what the person above said, your local chu...Echoing what the person above said, your local church will help you. I know so many churches who do really good work In their communities even if it's just babysitting or help with meals. So sorry to hear about your awful situation and heartless MP. We can all pray for a better world. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-61531571210987748752012-09-07T16:21:21.817+02:002012-09-07T16:21:21.817+02:00Sonja Francis, editor@thamenews.net, says she can&...Sonja Francis, editor@thamenews.net, says she can't print the story until she gets a reply for balance from MP and PM. Suggests you might want to write a letter to the editor? Paul Trembathnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-11651028301045460392012-09-07T16:12:36.867+02:002012-09-07T16:12:36.867+02:00I would also like to donate to you. This is awful...I would also like to donate to you. This is awful, I am truly sorry for you and your family.BPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-64882767327481117842012-09-07T13:13:16.216+02:002012-09-07T13:13:16.216+02:00As a parent of a now adult son I would agree that ...As a parent of a now adult son I would agree that citizen's advice may be able to help you deal with the benefits people. Letters from the treating doctors should make a difference , or reports of assessments that they have already done. <br />Headway may have loads to offer in terms of benefit's advice, support for your family etc and possibly a way to meet other people who have already learned the stuff you now need to know. They are a charity and what is available really varies from area to area. <br />You don't say how he got his brain injury. But if there is a chance that he might have a claim against someone for negligence, or that it may be covered by an insurance policy at the location/ of a driver, then this could totally change everything. Through the lawyers in our case, we found brain injury experts who really helped, and were able to claim enough money to meet care needs for life. I used Field Fisher Waterhouse and would thoroughly recommend them. <br />You are right that the Welfar system really doesn't do what it needs to do in these circumstances, when, as you say, you are grieving, trying to support grieving children, trying to support your partner, and having the work of both parents to do at home. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-64816105589459554332012-09-07T12:49:50.954+02:002012-09-07T12:49:50.954+02:00CAB will help fight for your benefits. Might even ...CAB will help fight for your benefits. Might even provide a hardship grant. Home start provide assistance with the children just as a mothers help.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01711465282131992680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-25878801669643581592012-09-07T12:22:37.025+02:002012-09-07T12:22:37.025+02:00So sorry to hear of your struggle. I am a personal...So sorry to hear of your struggle. I am a personal injury lawyer at Darbys in Oxford (we also have an office in Thame) and act for many brain injured adults and children. We could help you get a free benefits check and advice from an independent financial adviser firm that we use for our existing clients. We have a good relationship with them and they have a specialist benefits adviser that we would be happy to get a free report from on your behalf to try and help you with the battle against the benefits system. We also have links to some charities - have you heard of Headway? They specialise in providing support for people with brain injuries and their families. I would be happy to chat/email if you would like to contact me. My colleague acts as a Deputy for many brain injured people and so also has a lot of experience in dealing with the challenges that they and their families face. Even if your husband does not have a personal injury claim, as we deal with many families in similar circumstances, there may be other ways in which we can help you for free or put you in touch with sources of support. My email address is lcook@darbys.co.uk or otherwise our firm website is www.darbys.co.uk Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-19918891794416797272012-09-07T11:36:17.892+02:002012-09-07T11:36:17.892+02:00Have you got a local Citizens Advice? They will ha...Have you got a local Citizens Advice? They will have more power over everything benefit wise, they will make the phone calls for you, help you word the letters and find you services and funding. The children will be able to have access to some sort of counsellor and or a young carer group, again the CAB will help with that. I work for our local one and although each area is different they all do the same thing. <br /><br />I needed similar help Food and services wise with my disabled child a few years ago. I phoned the social services and requested a social worker. They are there to help you with food & kids too. They aren't as scary as you think and they can arrange days out for the kids to give you a break. They also have more power than the CAB and can kick butt for you relaxing your stresses by taking some of the strain. <br /><br />It will get easier as hard as that is to believe but you've taken the first step by asking for help. I take my hat off to people like you you are the backbone of this country. If the mp won't help go to the media it's amazing what a bit of publicity can do for you and others in your situation. <br /><br />Keep the faith you'll get this sorted with the help of the blog so you can concentrate on your husband's recovery. Please let me know if you need any help with getting the CAB involved xx MyLifeMySonMyWayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01554209463875941782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-68478221078023081622012-09-07T09:44:21.456+02:002012-09-07T09:44:21.456+02:00I will absolutely share & RT. This just isn...I will absolutely share & RT. This just isn't right. Lots of love to you and your family xCatherine Rodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893083162115591562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-61409750582889780882012-09-07T09:33:21.874+02:002012-09-07T09:33:21.874+02:00I absolutely agree - as a community we can all hel...I absolutely agree - as a community we can all help you - this is a disgrace and I sincerely hope our MP is thoroughly ashamed of himself and his dismissive attitude Kaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-63190274714542982922012-09-07T09:18:22.543+02:002012-09-07T09:18:22.543+02:00Also- you may not like the idea of charity but do ...Also- you may not like the idea of charity but do you have a PayPal account? I'd really like to donate some money to help with food and I'm sure there are many mums/ wives/ human beings out there who feel the same way. You are part of a massive community of compassionate individuals- please let us help?Tinuke Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13060860345079895363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-62515424688461113332012-09-07T09:15:58.118+02:002012-09-07T09:15:58.118+02:00We need to band together and get this sorted for y...We need to band together and get this sorted for you once and for all. That you are having to go through this is absolutely disgraceful and the welfare system in this country is absolutely ludicrous. I know when I was at my most needy and basically homeless with a new born baby they did nothing for me either, just don't understand it.<br />Going to share your story and bang pots together until someone with the right scissors to cut through the beurocracy hears this.<br />So very much hope this gets sorted soon. Tinuke Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13060860345079895363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-44467494241819541322012-09-07T08:17:14.656+02:002012-09-07T08:17:14.656+02:00Rooting for you. Followed you since your return fr...Rooting for you. Followed you since your return from France. So sorry it is so hard. Will RT xxSarahhttp://www.apartyofseven.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-50035144821059368792012-09-07T01:55:48.828+02:002012-09-07T01:55:48.828+02:00Also, don't underestimate the help your childr...Also, don't underestimate the help your children's school can provide. Do they know the full story? They may be able to help cut through red tape in the short term and refer your children for counselling with regard to your husband's situation in the long term. Talk to them, if you haven't already.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-2955695804400278142012-09-07T01:13:34.249+02:002012-09-07T01:13:34.249+02:00If you haven't - get in touch with the social ...If you haven't - get in touch with the social fund - a department in the job centre plus - it's free to call from the wall phones in the job centre or you can find the number for your area on the job centre web site. You maybe able to apply for a ' community care grant ', through them - depending on your circumstances. It's designed to help people remain in their homes in their existing community- From my experience it can take a number of weeks to be awarded so speak to the people at the social fund to see if you qualify before starting the process. Also if you speak to someone that isn't that helpful it may be worth ringing back at a later date, from my experience there are helpful and in-helpful people answering the phone! The same goes for the MP, there will be an office manager at the MP's office that does he day-to-day resolution of problems - Each MP voted into parliament gets salaried full time staff to run their constituency office. <br />Things will get easier. Make sure you know as much info as you can- purely to avoid wasting your time with people or departments that can't actually help you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4731307748247015186.post-17431926122494518632012-09-07T00:14:26.799+02:002012-09-07T00:14:26.799+02:00Totally feel for you. Agree Trussell Trust Food Ba...Totally feel for you. Agree Trussell Trust Food Bank. Appalled at your MP. Our North Dorset MP is endlessly working on cases like yours. Who is your District or County councillor? Worth contacting. I would also get into<br />Your local radio station. The squeaky wheel DOES get the oil. Lastly (should have been firstly) whether or not you are a Christian , your local church WILL help and support you. Jane Gouldhttp://www.cleansheet.org.uknoreply@blogger.com